“You know, the right guy won’t get you to change. He won’t subtly pressure you. He won’t tell you who you can and can’t talk to. He won’t hide the fact that you’re hanging out. He’s not gonna tell you you’re wrong for feeling; for being a girl. The right guy will show you off to his friends. He’ll take it as slow as you want. He’ll only go as far as you’re comfortable with. He’ll take you out to places, even if it’s just a fast food place or the store. He’ll actually sit through your stupid, girly Disney movies with you because he just wants to be with you. The right guy will come along someday, you just gotta tough it out and wait for him. But whatever you do, don’t settle for the wrong guy. You deserve so much more.”
You see, guys like this do actually exist in the world. Myself being one of them, I know what this kind of relationship ends up being: friendship. All these kinds of girls really want is to be your friend. And it’s true, we make really good friends. We can go places, hang out, have dinner, etc. and have a dandy time. But as this goes on, the woman becomes complacent with this casual type of hanging out. This leads to an inherent decision that the guy is best suited to fill that role of a close friend, and nothing more. Whether or not the guy is interested in a deeper relationship (dating) or not is usually irrelevant as the woman will make this decision regardless (unless it was established at the beginning that dating would never occur). Even then, there’s always the possibility of self-change and everyone can be there own judge to that (but don’t bank on it!), but I digress. Whatever the individual circumstances, the guy will never be fully in control, which is okay cause that shouldn’t ever be the case (that would be bad and you wouldn’t be this guy).
But my point here is this: the guy that is described in the above quote, will most always end up stuck in the “friend zone”. It’s not our fault. We’re the ones who sit here and listen and comfort and cry with you, even when our day has other important things in it. We’re the ones who are always looking out for what’s best for you, even when you don’t realize it. We’re the ones who put your needs before our own, even when you don’t know it. We’re the ones who choose to return that close connection, even when we could get it from another friend or already have it with one. We’re the ones who are there when you need….well, anything. Cause that’s the type of guys that we are. We are willing to drop everything because you are just that important to us. Now yes, the guy that does this is, 99% of the time, interested in pursuing a relationship much deeper than friendship (there’s always exceptions). But the type of guy described above will even do this for certain friends. There is also the factor of his relationship with the Lord. A true man of God would be willing to give his own life for his fellow man and some carry this over into everyday “emergencies” that arise. Yes, we do have our own lives and we do manage to lead them just fine. We just choose to put your needs first at that time. Cause you are one of the most important things in our life and we would do anything for you.
Now, isn’t that the type of guy that these women want? Give me your thoughts and comments.